Calling all non-virgins...

[guest_age]

Yeah, so what I'm about to ask is highly inappropriate and very personal, thus you are allowed to post anonymously and no IP addresses will be logged. Here's the dealy, yos. I have to start working on my fic for the jameslilyfqf very soon and my challenge is first-time awkward sex. You all know what happened the first time I "technically" had sex, and I haven't had it since, so I haven't had that real first-time experience, so I have nothing to draw on. So here's the dealie. Can you guys just tell me some random things about your first times? I have no clue what I'm doing here, so if you've got something that might help, please share. If you don't feel like sharing your personal story or are like me and don't have a personal story, rec a fic that you've read that you thought captured the first time thing pretty well. I have no clue what I'm doing here and I'm wibbling over that and the fact that I've only written James and Lily ONCE and well, that was just a random piece of smut for Liz. So...anonymous commenting is on in case you don't want to let everyone know who you are, so...have at it. And yeah, I know this is weird for me to be asking, and trust me, I wouldn't be if I wasn't desperate. Thanks.

Now that I've disturbed you all, let me go back to being normal. Kristyn read the first part of her fic and the subject line of her comment was "Fucking brilliant, well not yet" lol. She actually squeed. That has got to be my greatest accomplishment to date, as this allows me to join the ranks of the few, the proud, the squee-worthy. You mo-fo's realize that this puts me on par with the ferret scene? *is honored* :) I do feel guilty though because everyone seems to think that I hate Tonks, which I don't, or that I'm against Remus/Tonks, which I'm not. I purposefully wrote this fic so that it could be canon and yet Remus and Tonks still get together. I purposefully included her crush on him, and then had him say something about how he liked her name and she blushes. I really really really wanted this to be something that could've been canon, a "deleted scene" almost.

That being said, other than challenges that I've already signed up for or birthday fics, I'm taking a break from smut. I feel like I'm writing the exact same scene over and over and over and it never changes. It's getting old, and quite frankly, I'm sick of smut almost. So, I'm taking a break until I can come up with something more original to do. Yeah, I can't believe that I'm doing this either, but I am, so...*shrug* Right then...back to Liz's birthday fic, which I don't think will be porn, though it may be a little...I'm gonna try to keep it at PG-13 or R because I don't think it needs to be smutty...*shrug* We'll see. Anyway, good-night. 28 days til Christmas Eve! :)

Comments

[ex-crystalle432.livejournal.com]

FYI: You can't post anonymously on flocked entries.

But yeah, first time? Does that mean they are both virgins or it's just their first time together? That is very important, or if one of them is a virgin and the other one isn't. I can't really answer your question until you answer mine.

[guest-age.livejournal.com]

Really? You can't? Oh, I'll edit it to make it public then. *sigh* Annoying LJ.

Anyway, the challenge just said "Awkward first time sex," but I was going to do them both virgins because I can't stand "James and Sirius are the sex gods of the school" fics or "Lily is a whore" fics. This is actually going to be set on either the night they get engaged or the night of their wedding, because I see Lily as being kind of like Hermione and being a bit of a prude.

SO um, yeah, first time for both. *goes to edit post to make it public, which is vaguely disturbing as random LJ surfers will now be able to see my weirdness*

[ex-crystalle432.livejournal.com]

Well okay then. Two virgins together = trouble. Really. My first was a virgin and he did push-ups on me and I bled for a week. (Didn't you want to know that?) But I'm sure James wouldn't be that *ahem* stupid. Definitely include some issues with actually getting it in, because yeah, it's like trying to fit a stale marshmellow in a keyhole. It will hurt her, at first. Then he'll probably come too quickly and feel bad but she won't care. Um... more awkwardness... let me think. Having to do it somewhere other than a bed because they both live with their parents... lack of foreplay because he doesn't know any better... um... that's all I got right now. Good luck. :)

[guest-age.livejournal.com]

...stale marshmallow in a keyhole? God, I'm going to have to let a marshmallow go bad and then try to shove it into my door to see what you mean.

You've just ruined marshamallows for me, you know that, right? And I was just eating them Thursday with my grandma before Thanksgiving dinner...*sigh* Woes for the loss of marshmallows. Woes!

...now what do you mean "she won't care"? Like she'll be glad it's over or she'll just be like "it's okay James, don't worry about it..." etc and try to be nice?

I take it she's not supposed to orgasm, right?

Oooh, goodie! No foreplay! Sounds like most of my fics anyway! :)

[ex-crystalle432.livejournal.com]

Stale marshmellow in a keyhole = it doesn't fit. ^_^

I ate marshmellows on Thursday too. Hehe.

She won't care because, well, probably both. LOL but more like 'don't worry about it'.

Most women don't orgasm that way. I doubt one would the first time.

[guest-age.livejournal.com]

They don't? Oh, wait, Sue said something about that on Talk Sex (stfu, I learn a lot off of that show!)...well how the hell do they then? Wait, don't answer that, I probably don't need that sort of info floating around in a public post...

Damn marshmallows. *is still woeing their loss*

[violetfishy.livejournal.com]

Okay, you got it. First-time sex for violetfishy...

I was 16 and very much into my goth stage - I was all black lipstick, huge boots and refusing to wear a colour that wasn't black. I met this boy who had long hair, piercings and was gorgeous. It was about 2 months into the relationship when we started talking about sex. I had decided that I wasn't it to be more memorable than in a bed, so we, er...decided to do it in the graveyard of the Anglican Cathedral in Liverpool (forgive me, but I was SO goth and thought it would be oh so romantic).
I remember being so excited and nervous. We had planned to meet up and walk there together. We actually brought along a little picnic and waited for it to get dark!
So I picked out a gravestone and it was very awkward, because we knew what all the kissing was going to lead too, and neither of us really had a clue what we were doing because we were both virgins. I took me two condoms to actually get one on correctly.
So first we tried the missionary position, but I kept backing away every time he tried to enter me because I was scared about it hurting! Completely unsuccessful first attempt.
Secondly, I decided to be on top, so it could all be at my pace. It did hurt, but not so much as I thought it would. I didn't get any real sexual pleasure from it, becuase it was more uncomfertable and weird than sexy, but he seemed to enjoy it. It was nice though, because I knew that with this guy I had made the right decision. I was so happy I was doing it with him. I wanted it to be him, and looking back, I still have no regrets at all that I lost my virginity to him.
I was with this guy for 2 1/2 years. The sex got a LOT better (that first summer, after we had sex in the graveyard we were at it like bloody rabbits...I actually lost a stone in weight). It ultimately did not work out, but we are still friends, and I regard myself as very, very lucky to have lost my virginity to such an awesome guy.

Oh, and I am not a goth anymore. That stage has WAY since past!

I can't believe I have told you this, but it is for the greater good of fanfiction! Apart from the whole graveyard bit...God, what was I thinking?

[violetfishy.livejournal.com]

Oh, and yes...there was blood. For the first few times I had sex actually, but that stopped and it didn't hurt so much.

I think ALL first time sex is awkward. You want it to go right but you have no experience. Basically, you're just muddling your way through. Making it up as you go, with only a mechanical knowledge of what is meant to happen! But if you're with the right person, then all those mistakes can be funny and laughed about together. :)

[guest-age.livejournal.com]

Hmm...I think you just gave me an idea that could make this easier. I was going to do James's POV, but I think I'll do Lily's instead because I think the awkwardness will come through better...hmm...Thank you! *hugs*

[violetfishy.livejournal.com]

I'm glad I could help you out. You'll have to tell me when you complete the fic. Sounds like it's going to be interesting!

And the graveyard thing...er...yeah. It just seemed romantic at the time! You have to forgive me, I was a 16 year old goth. lol.

[guest-age.livejournal.com]

Haha, no judgement, trust me. I promise. Graveyard or no. ;-)

Oh, trust me, I will. I'll be pimping the hell out of it from one end of the earth to the other. :)

[guest-age.livejournal.com]

A graveyard? Woah. But still, that info was very helpful, and I think bit about being on top so you could control it is smoething I can use. Let's face it, this is Lily Evans...she would be the type to do that, I think. Thank you so much!

[eckerlilas.livejournal.com]

I wanna friend you darlin! Is that okay with you?

First time sex. Wow. Very awkward. For me, it was a problem with him not knowing what to do with his hands. And then there was the pain. For a guy's first time he'll have a hard time finding a comfortable rhythm, even after the pain subsides for her. Not to mention the likelihood that he won't last long enough for it to matter. It all sounds so negative, doesn't it. With James, lets just hope that he'll be sweet enough to help the both of them through it.

My first time wasn't much to speak of. But what was great was the second time, which was about 10 minutes later *grins* It becomes a whole 'nother ball game. It might be worth incorporating something like that into your story.

Hope something I said was helpful.

[guest-age.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I'll friend you back, btw.